Disappearing passion after 50 (It happens but is it really normal?)

Is it “normal” for sex to disappear in relationships after couples reach their 50’s?

Sales for products like Cialis and Viagra are off the charts these days and you can’t turn on the radio, TV, look on the
internet or magazines without seeing or hearing some advertisement for ED.

With sales like this it tells us two things, men and women want the sex and passion to last as long as possible and
there’s a BIG fear that it won’t.

This multi-billion dollar industry wouldn’t exist if we thought life was all good in this area.

So if you have some fear that love-making will gradually disappear forever far sooner than you want…

You certainly aren’t alone.

Maybe you’ve seen some “signs” that your relationship’s headed in that direction…

–Love making isn’t as intense or as often as it once was

–Erections aren’t as hard or he doesn’t last as long

–Interest just isn’t there as it once was

But it doesn’t have to be that way.

Here’s a question from a reader and our answer…

“I’m afraid that slowly sex will become less and less a part of my marriage until it disappears completely. More than anything, I want my husband to become more inventive or at least remember what I have gently told him about what I like and don’t like. Please help!”

Our answer:

The good news is that you’re noticing what you want and what you don’t want and by asking the question, you sound like you’re ready to take some action!

So good going…

Because of busy lives, couples often barely notice until it’s too late that their sex lives have gone to nothing…

There may be an inner nudging about it but because they have busy lives, they put those “nudges” on the back burner and focus on work, the house, grandkids or anything else.

But it sounds like you know how important it is to keep the spark alive and you’re ready to do something about it.

So definitely becoming aware is the first step toward having what you want.

And more than anything else, it’s about connection.

You don’t want to lose that connection that you get from being loved and loving in that way.

You say that you’ve “gently” told your husband what you like and what you don’t like.

While we certainly understand being gentle with him so he doesn’t take it that he’s a wash out when it comes to sex…

We also know that maybe subtle may not make it!

How about instead of telling him what you like and don’t like…

Connect with him first by being totally present and if you need to think about something, think about what you love about him.

Just touch each other and take your time.

Express with your body and your voice what you do like as he’s doing it.

He’ll pay attention if he feels you enjoying yourself and truly “with” him.

He’ll also be more open to “being more inventive” and exploring books and videos about connected love-making if the two of you can re-focus that it’s pleasurable and fun.

Often, sex falls by the wayside because it’s become a chore and not pleasurable and fun.

For more awesome suggestions about how to connect deeper in the bedroom and up your desire for each other, visit https://redhotafter50.com/program/

Bring the pleasure back–and this can start with you.